Tuesday, December 23, 2008
Monday, December 22, 2008
Sunday, December 21, 2008
- Children becoming more angry, moody and rebellious
- Not concentrating on their studies
- Maybe we beat children because we are unable to cope with our own emotions of frustration or tiredness
- We maybe making children into very aggressive or angry adults
“The workshop session was good, different and practical. The few points that I learnt was to speakless, to be oneself , render help from the receivers perspective and not from the giver. I liked the methodology and the hospitality was good” - Lawrance David “Caruna Bal Vikas” Chennai.
“The workshop session was a new experience and had a chance to know different organization and intellectual people. It increased my confidence level to continue my job. The few points that I learnt from the workshop was more things through this workshop. I learnt about what is loss and grief, difference between grief and stress and also how to identify the level of depression and grief and also about how one can cope up for one more loss and grief . It was a good opportunity to realize my loss and grief in my life. I liked the methodology very much. The Hospitality was very good”- Mercy Vinola “Selvi Memorial Illam Society” Chennai.
“The workshop session was very good I learnt a lot personally and for my area of work. The few points that I learnt from the workshop was to personally understand my role (i.e) to be more sensitive to little thing that children bring about and also learnt that every action has something to tell. This helps me to understand the client and also my own family better. The methodology was good. The games could be bit focused but we loved the games. The hospitality was good and the workshop was good and nice. I enjoyed it and it was more a learning process and learnt a new concept” - Samuel Pradheep Rajah “Caruna Bal Vikas” Chennai.
“The workshop was excellent especially the Oppari Video document was very good and new and it also shows the importance in a particular situation (death). The few points I learnt from the workshop was handling of crisis situation, pointing out a criticism in a very right manner. I also learnt about the ritual connection to the context” - Siva kumar “ Sangama” Chennai.
“The workshop session was very good and I felt very comfortable, language was very clear and fluent. Maintaining time was good and nothing was wrong. The few points that I learnt from the workshop was to understand the difference between grief, loss, depression and stress. I also learnt about the different types of grief and how o overcome loss/ grief. I like the methodology it made me comfortable and happy. The hospitality was good and the atmosphere was relaxed and homely. Some of the suggestion and comments is that all the best for your continuous session. Make policy and strategies charges for our social services in border perspective” - Daisy David “World Vision India” Chennai.
Sunday, December 14, 2008
Tuesday, December 9, 2008
Friday, November 28, 2008
The participants of the workshop are counsellors working in schools, HIV/AIDS and MSM project. Those coming from a background of helping clients cope with loss and grief found this workshop very helpful.
What it covers?
What is Grief ?
Grief and Depression
Grief and Stress
Stages of grief - Dr. Elizabeth Kubler- Ross
· Video on stages of grief
· Personal Understanding of grief
Types of bereavement
Discussion of various types of bereavement
Rituals and cultural response to bereavement
Types of loss/ grief
Types of losses and one’s response.
Coping with loss and grief
Helping the counsellor to help the client to care for oneself.
Back to routine
“The workshop session was different. The few points that I learnt from the workshop was how to counsel clients with issues of loss and grief. This workshop was totally different and had not heard about it before. It was very interesting and I learnt how to take on this challenge. The hospitality was excellent.” - Ashraf, Islamic School/V Excel chennai.
“The workshop session was very informative. The few points that I learnt from the workshop was validating others emotions by giving them time to speak and cry. I also understood that everybody needs a place and a person to go meet and pour their sorrows. I also learnt that we should be the strong shoulders for them. My suggestions and comments is that please continue with your workshops even if it rains. Congratulations for the topic you chose it for the current situation and people need these types of workshop to improve one selves and bring peace and happiness in their family”. - Mariam Basheer, Special educator Chennai
“The workshop session was really excellent for me. Now I can differentiate grief, depression and stress. This is my first counselling workshop but it gave me a lot of knowledge, technique and confidence. The few points that I learnt from the workshop was to measure grief, depression and stress. Different types of losses. How rituals help people. Counselling technique, how to probe so that counsellors get more and more information from client. It was a very good workshop”.- Sudha Jha, SAATHII Calcutta.
“The workshop was very good. The few points that I learnt from the workshop is that everyone experiences loss and grief and it depends on how individuals take it and I also learnt that there are five stage in grieving and we have to accept that. I also learnt the difference between depression, stress and loss. I also learnt how to give counselling to these issues” - K. Sundar, Sahodaran Chennai.
- Each student wrote down a person they admired most and what are the qualities that they admired in that person.
- After they wrote it down they had a discussion about it with other students.
- Then the students made a chart - A relationship chart, on this chart they had to make a circle in the center and write their names within the circle, then make circles for all the significant people in their lives right now - including if they liked any "boy" at this point. The students were told they did not have to share this chart with anyone except one person they choose from the group.
- The students drew lines connecting them to the person drawn on the chart either a single line to show how "close" they were with the person on the chart, double line to show "very close" and three lines to show they were "extremely close" to the person. On the line they wrote what were the issues that were discussed with this person.
- Once all the students drew this chart, they were very secretive and choose one partner from the group to share this with. The students seemed to get a lot of insight about their relationships from this activity.
- This made it easier for the students to come back as a group to discuss the qualities of
- A 'Brother - Sister' kind of relationship
- Friend who happens to be boy relationship
- Special or Serious relationship
- They thought a brother - sister relationship or a boy as a friend was when they felt "safe" with this person. They gave the following example - when they had gone on a school trip somewhere and they wanted to use the wash rooms, they asked some of the boys to come with them. They gave names of boys they felt who fitted in this category.
- They thought they could discuss some of the problems with them.
- They felt they will not be 'made fun of' or 'laughed at' by these boys
- They wanted support from them when they had trouble in their own homes.
- The 'serious relationship' list started with a description of what was a serious relationship. They felt they were too young and then said a serious relationship was something that one has when they are a little older maybe 21 or 22 years old. They felt that was an age when one finishes college and is 'emotionally mature' to handle such a relationship. This list had things like he should not be suspicious of me, should treat me with respect, should treat me equally, etc.
- They talked about how other girls in their class was thinking that the relationship is 'serious' but then concluded by saying even if she was 'seeing' this boy it can only be described as 'friend who happens to be a boy' category because this was not the age to think of a 'serious' relationship.
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
Chennai's Center for Counselling is conducting a counselling workshop on Living through loss and grief from 28th to 30th November 2008 (Friday to Sunday) at our office: 18 Radhakrishnan Salai 9th St.,3rd Floor, Mylapore, Chennai 600 004.
The objective of the workshop is to help counsellors in turn help their clients cope with loss and grief. When someone experiences loss;
loss of health (terminal illness),
loss of limb (accident),
loss of a loved one, etc
they go through grief. Grieving is a natural and expected process, which involves feeling many different emotions over a period of time, all of which eventually help the person to come to terms with the loss.
This workshop will help one to understand the expression of emotion and thought about the loss, including sadness, anxiety, anger, loneliness, guilt, relief, isolation, confusion, or numbness. This workshop will also help one to think creatively about the challenges that follow loss, and to cope with concurrent changes in one’s life.
We use participatory learning techniques. Group discussion, sharing of testimonials, games and exercises, consideration of case studies, role plays are some of the methodologies used.
We charge Rs.2, 500/- , this includes material, lunch and tea. Accommodation maybe arranged for participants on request. Registrations are open.
Phone Numbers:+91-44-42080810, +91-9884700174, +91-9884100135
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
- Magdalene Jeyarathnam
- Eric Miller
- Mrinalini Sekar
“This is one of the best workshop that I have attended, it is very informative, very enthusiastic and very much practical. The few points that I learnt from the workshop was the different therapies to get the children in track. I liked the methodology very much , it kept me lively and very energetic. I wish to attend more number of training, because of the way it is organized. - Mr. S.Jeyakumar Chennai, GRACE Project World Vision.
“ The workshop session was really good to me to learn more things about children. It helps me to develop my skills. The workshop conducted was a pleasant atmosphere. The few points that I learnt how to tell stories, how to teach art, how can one handle the children. As a counsellor, every person is unique, equal and never give advice. I liked the methodology very much and it is essential for children. - Ms. A.Gnana Kumari, Gutur HIV AIDS Project World Vision.
‘The workshop was very good. I never attended this type of counselling training, and I attended a counselling training before this workshop, but not like this, this is entirely different which I attended before. The few points which I learnt is that through the methods of story telling, art therapy and games/ dance , we could be able to deal the children, and make them to come out of their problem. I liked the method to counsel children very easily. Through this method we can be able to understand the children Psychology. Excellent hospitality’ - Tirupathi Rao.D, Gutur HIV AIDS Project World Vision.
“The workshop session are very appropriate. Few points that I learnt was Music , Dance, Story telling and key counselling skills. All the activities very appropriate and very good. The methodology was very good. I can improve a lot in my work place.- G. Benjamin, Hyderabad HIV AIDS Project World Vision.
‘The workshop session was very informative and easy to understand and I also enjoyed. The therapies which are play based methods were helpful to ventilate. I liked the methodology and it is very apt for children”. - Sam Martin Chennai, GRACE Project World Vision.
“The workshop session was very good , I enjoyed all the sessions. I learnt story telling, how to tell counter stories to the problem and drama therapy, dance therapy, art therapy and how these methods can be used while counselling children”.
- R.Prasanna Kumar Guntur, HIV AIDS Project World Vision.
“The workshop session was very useful and very informative. The few points that I learnt is to be self - sufficient and learn to conduct support group meetings and to do counselling for children and about how to handle children. I like the methodology it was very good and useful. I can implement in the support group meetings I conduct.
- Pramela, Chennai GRACE Project World Vision.
“ The workshop session was wonderful. I felt like home and not like other trainings. The timings were very convenient , I learnt about story telling therapy , music therapy and counselling through games and different activities like exercise etc. I liked the methodology very much and the games and activities gave meaning to life through this workshop. Since our work is involved in larger area, this training would surely help me to work and concentrate on little children more”. - Jayaraj, Chennai GRACE Project World Vision.
“The workshop session was very interesting to know and learn. Gained knowledge to work effectively among the vulnerable children. I liked the methodology it was very interesting to learn” - Ms. Freeda Augustin, Chennai GRACE Project World Vision.
Monday, November 17, 2008
Self - calming techniques (Yoga and meditation)
Pudumai Penn Programme - Olcott Memorial School
As part of the leadership training for a group of girls in the 9th standard at Olcott Memorial School, a half-day workshop was conducted. The workshop focused on Self - calming techniques using yoga. Ten girls were present in the workshop. The session started at 9 30 a.m with an introductory game, in the game everyone stood in a circle. Anyone could begin the game by saying their name and demonstrating a [physical] motion to go with it. Each person had said their name with their movement. This simple and interesting game helped me to learn the names of the girls. Then the session began by having an interaction about what they knew about Yoga? The students said that they were learning yoga from their school yoga master but they said they never did the asanas (postures) seriously as they were shy to do it in front of the boys.
The girls were asked to take 12 normal breaths and then they were asked to do conscious breathing. A feedback was asked and the girls said they very better able to focus with conscious breathing. The right breathing technique was taught to the girls. Few asanas incorporating the breathing technique was taught and demonstrated which was then practiced. Each student was given the opportunity to demonstrate the different posture, which was taught to them in front of the class. Individual attention to each student was given and feedback about how they felt was asked to them in between the session, to ensure that there was stability and comfort in their body while doing the asanas (postures). After doing the practice for about one and half hours. A small break was given to the girls.
Meditation was taught to the students. During the meditative practice the students were taught to place their hands on their abdomen and the focus was on the menstrual pain which some of the girls experienced. Some simple breathing technique was taught so that it relieves the pain they experience. During the meditative practice they were also taught to place their hands on their heart and after that a small discussion was started regarding the emotions they go through when they are in a relationship. Few girls spoke frankly and shared their experience in being in any kind of a relationship and the emotions they experienced. Meditative practice was taught to help them have control over their feelings and also it will give them the ability to discriminate. After the discussion a simple specific breathing practice was taught to help the girls relax and to be better able to focus and concentrate during their examination.
We closed the session by sitting in a circle, holding hands and moving a pulse around the room as suggested by Ms.Shoba to emphasize unity within the group.
The girls gave a very good feedback about how they felt and said they felt completely relaxed and comfortable.
Friday, October 31, 2008
Resource persons list:
Magdalene Jeyarathnam - Founder, Center for Counselling
Thamilarasi - Training Manager, Center for Counselling
Sankari - Counsellor, Center for Counselling
Sandhya Palani - Part time trainer, Center for Counselling
Roshini Kumar - Counsellor, Olcott Memorial School
Eric Miller - Director, World Storytelling Institute
We had participants for the workshop from different backgrounds
Using Erik Erikson's 8 stages of human development as a base, we listed various issues that we have seen as issues in our experience counselling clients. Different ways of coping the transition in each stage was also discussed in groups.
We had extensive discussions on the different stages. We did role play sessions and many case senarios were discussed among the group. The feedback we got about the workshop was extremely positive.
Feedback from the participants
“ The workshop was very informative, got to learn the behavioural changes in people as they grow- up; the workshop was entertaining and interactive.. I learnt few points about about counselling, children and their behaviour, sexuality - when people identity it and to deal with kids and adolescents... The hospitality was excellent”
- Mr.J.TEJHA SINGH
“ The workshop session was very good. The case studies and role play kept us more confident to do counselling. The few points I learnt from the workshop ..I learnt and now know about the changes and issues from childhood and late adulthood. How people think and act and how they feel. I liked the methodology and the roly plays were good. Please have more role plays so I will be easy to understand.
- Mr.M.KAMALAKANNA “Chid haven International”
“The workshop was very good and informative session. I learnt about counselling stratergies. Empathy towards sexuality minority groups. Understand and learnt to empathise the problems faced by both men and women during their psychological development The hospality was very good”
- Ms. GEETHA RAJENDRAN
“The workshop session was too good. Topic chosen by Magdalene was very appropriate for today’s busy life. Psychosocial stages of human development. Congratulations!! I was glued to the different stages explained and tuned to the lecture..Excellent hospitality I felt at home.
- Ms.MARIAM BASHER
“Really excellent training that center for counselling does. The way of presented sessions were well. The various stages was very interesting. The methodologies was very good. I liked the games and will implement in my classes”
- Ms.SHAKTHI DEVI “MCCSS”
“The workshop session was very good and very informative. I have never spoken in a group , it was like eye opener this session. The different stages were talked in depth. I really enjoyed the games. I was able break the barrier of being reserved. The hospitality was excellent”